The appointment you are not making
Men die earlier, largely of things that are cheap to treat when found early. What to book, and when.
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There is a thing you have been meaning to get looked at. You have been meaning to for a while now. You will probably still be meaning to at Christmas.
Men are consistently less likely than women to see a doctor, and consistently more likely to die of the things that get caught in those appointments. That is not a coincidence and it is not bad luck. It is a queue you did not join.
The honest reason most men do not go
It is rarely time. It is that going makes it real, and not going keeps it hypothetical. As long as you have not been told, you do not have it.
That instinct is understandable and it is exactly backwards. Nearly everything on the list below is straightforward when it is found early and grim when it is found late. The waiting is the risk.
What is worth having checked
- Blood pressure — no symptoms until it does real damage, and free to measure
- Cholesterol and blood sugar — same story, one blood test
- Anything on your skin that has changed shape, color or size
- Any lump, anywhere, that was not there before
- Changes to how you pee, particularly after forty
- Persistent cough, persistent gut trouble, unexplained weight loss
- Your mood, if it has been flat for more than a couple of weeks
This is general information, not medical advice, and it does not know anything about you. A GP does. Book the appointment.
The argument that actually works
If you will not do it for yourself, do the arithmetic on your family. There are people in your house whose plan for the next thirty years quietly assumes you are in it.
That is not emotional blackmail. It is just the actual stake, and men tend to move for that when they will not move for their own comfort.
“Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit?”
1 Corinthians 6:19Questions women ask
I feel fine. Is there any point?
Feeling fine is exactly the window you want to be in. Blood pressure, cholesterol and blood sugar all do their damage silently for years before you notice anything, which is the entire reason they are screened rather than waited for.
How often?
Ask your GP, because it depends on your age, family history and what they find. As a floor: if you cannot remember the last time, it has been too long.
Sources & review
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